Breakups are painful experiences, but when a relationship ends abruptly, particularly without a sense of closure, the emotional aftermath can run far deeper than we often expect. Sadly, unresolved relational conflicts can significantly disrupt mental health, often in ways that may initially appear unrelated.
When a relationship ends without a clear conversation or resolution it leaves us confused, full of self-doubt, and emotional turbulence. The longer this goes on the more likely people will face ongoing emotional difficulties like depression, heightened anxiety, sleep disturbances, and feelings of worthlessness or isolation. The jilted partner may also find concentrating at work a problem, or lose interest in previously enjoyed activities.
My role in your recovery from a break up
One of the first discussion I have with clients is that the symptoms they are feeling are not random. They are deeply rooted in disrupted interpersonal relationships and a loss of emotional security. When the emotional bonds that anchor us are suddenly broken without explanation, the mind can struggle to process the loss, often leading to lingering grief, anger, or unresolved longing. These internal struggles can manifest in seemingly unrelated areas of life — a promotion missed due to declining performance, increased arguments with close friends, or a general sense of dissatisfaction that seems to have no clear cause.
My role, as an Interpersonal Therpaist is to help clients to explore and make sense of their emotions, identify communication patterns, and learn healthier ways to express their needs and feelings. Rather than suppressing or avoiding the emotional pain of a breakup, I can help individuals face these feelings directly and constructively, allowing true healing to take place.
It is also crucial to point out that the symptoms they are getting from a breakup is not a sign of personal weakness, but that they are entirely normal and felt by so many other people.
However, when these feelings are left unaddressed, they can evolve into deeper, more persistent mental health issues. Early intervention through therapy can make a substantial difference.
You can and will get back to being who you want to be
An interpersonal therapist specialises in the process of recovery from what has happened, by understanding its lasting effects, and to regain a sense of emotional stability. My therapy room provides a supportive space to grieve the relationship, rebuild self-esteem, and ultimately develop healthier interpersonal skills for the future.
While breakups may initially seem like just a painful part of life, the impact they leave can be profound and long-lasting if unresolved.
If you're struggling to move on from a breakup, know that help is available.
Ten Tips for Getting Over a Breakup: An Interpersonal Therapist's Perspective
Acknowledge Your Feelings:Â Allow yourself to feel sadness, anger, confusion, or relief without judgment. Every emotion has its place.
Talk About It:Â Sharing your thoughts with a therapist or trusted friend can help you process the loss and prevent emotional bottling.
Identify Unresolved Issues:Â Reflect on any lingering questions or hurts. Naming these can reduce their unconscious impact.
Strengthen Other Relationships:Â Reach out to friends, family, and community. Healthy interpersonal connections promote healing.
Develop New Routines: Rebuild your daily life in ways that don’t revolve around your ex-partner. Structure brings stability.
Challenge Self-Blame:Â Recognize that breakups are usually complex. Avoid internalizing blame without reflection and fairness.
Express Yourself Creatively:Â Writing, art, or music can be powerful ways to externalize and process grief.
Focus on Your Needs: Prioritize self-care — sleep, nutrition, exercise, and activities that nourish your well-being.
Explore Relationship Patterns:Â Use this time to understand what you value and need in future relationships.
Consider Professional Support:Â An Interpersonal Therapist can help you navigate complex emotions and emerge stronger and more connected to yourself and others.
